We sat down after conference and went through these -- and "THAT child" knew immediately this was about him/her. I made it clear I was NOT EVER going to give up and that I would continue saying "No" and "Stop" but that we were also going to change a few things based on things Rachael discovered worked for her "THAT child," I am going to become a better advocate for "THAT child" (and already have talked with some other adults in his/her life who I know love and care for him/her), I'm going to do my best to make sure "THAT child" knows our love will only continue to grow deeper, that while s/he is wired a bit differently, boundaries are still boundaries -- but goals can be reached in different ways.
I didn't find the right solution from the Internet.
References: https://mache.org/resources/article/05- ... have-child
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